Ep 305 | Master 3 Key Strategies to Overcome Real Estate Challenges and Boost Your Mental Well-Being

Ever felt like you're spinning plates and one wrong move might bring everything crashing down? Join me, Ryan DeMent, as I share an unfiltered glimpse into the rollercoaster of being a business owner grappling with stress, anxiety, and the art of balance. My journey through real estate challenges and personal upheavals becomes a poignant narrative of juggling life's many responsibilities while trying not to lose sight of the present moment. Through candid confessions, I open up about the toll of neglecting self-care and how sleep deprivation can cripple productivity and mindset. Listen as I unravel my own struggles with confidence and focus, hoping to strike a chord with anyone who’s ever felt buried by their own expectations.

This episode is more than just story-sharing; it’s a reassuring conversation for anyone caught in the daily grind. From the chaos of real estate projects to the quieter battles of self-doubt, I explore the depths of what it means to regain balance and clarity. As I discuss the Beard Park project and the endless to-do lists that plague my mind, I hope to foster a sense of community and understanding. We’re all in this together, seeking the elusive harmony between ambition and personal well-being. Tune in for an honest discourse that aims to offer comfort and solidarity to all those maneuvering the complicated dance of life.

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Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:20

Hey guys, ryan DeMent, hope you guys are having a great day. Today on the podcast, you guys have me. I wanted to give you guys a little bit of an update of what's going on, what's driving my world, and just put some stuff out there and talk about what exactly is happening, but also, better yet, just talk about the struggles in life as being a business owner, a human being and being able to just walk through life. The last few weeks, I would just say, have been very stressful when it comes to balancing my life out and being able to really sleep, and I'm just being transparent. I just got a lot on my plate when it comes to real estate and loans, but also making sure that I'm taking care of myself. My family Moose he's at my feet as I shoot this video.

Speaker 1: 1:18

I'm struggling at times, and it's real is because there's only so much to do in the day, or so much time in the day that I can do something, and then everything falls apart and it becomes a crap show. Basically, and I'm shuffling back and forth, I'm not focused on one thing, I'm not driving to get something done. It is a pain in the butt and I don't know how else to say this, but the struggle for me is I'm worried about things I can't control right now or things that are coming up, and I'm not focused in on the present and being able to finish whatever's in front of me. I'm losing that focus and it's really a struggle. It's scary. But also the same time is I know I have to make the adjustment and I'm not making it quick enough and I'm losing ground with myself and I'm losing confidence in myself to get stuff done at times and it makes no sense because ultimately I'm the one that has to get everything to the finish line. But I also need to make sure that I'm not missing key components or critical aspects of things that I'm working on and I think at times I could be missing certain things in my mind but then when I go back and I look and I double check, they're there and I'm in this constant flow of questioning myself and I need to get out of that and just put that confidence back into me, knowing that it's going to get done and I'm going to be able to move forward.

Speaker 1: 3:06

A good example is this we're working on the Beard Park project and there's some things that we got to do on the second house. We're restaging it so it has a different look, so we can get some excitement around it. But my mindset is already down the block because we need to build the third house and we need to get the rest of the lot sold. And I mindset is already down the block because we need to build the third house and we need to get the rest of the lot sold and I'm not focused on the thing that's right in front of me that we need to take care of, and that is the second house, and get it sold and get it off of our plate. And I don't know if that's stress, if it's anxiety, if it's worrisome, I don't know, it could be everything, I don't know.

Speaker 1: 3:45

But I know the struggle is rough and tough and I'll be honest, I'm not sleeping very well. I know I said that earlier, but I'm not. And not sleeping doesn't bode for mindset. Also, getting stuff done on a daily basis, it just it doesn't work. And to be able to function properly in on the excuse me daily, you need to rest, you need to sleep, you need to have some hours of sleep to where your body gets into that REM state, and I would probably say the week and a half two weeks, I've not gotten that very much at all. Yes, look at my eyes bags under my eyes as I laugh. But it's all. Joking aside. It's a struggle, and the best way I know how to describe it is I'm in a rut, I'm in a funk and I need to do something about it, which I'm working on it and making sure that I'm focused on what needs to be done, but at the same time, I've also got to make sure that I'm not dropping things off my plate, but also life. I'm so focused, hyper-focused on these things that I'm missing out on personal life too, and that doesn't work either. I need to have some balance, and I know I've spoken about this in prior episodes that I've actually started balancing Saturday afternoon to Sunday to where I don't do any work, just to recharge and get going, and that helps me. That really does help me get the week going.

Speaker 1: 5:28

It's Tuesday and I'm already somewhat in a funk already and it's already worn off, so there's got to be something else I do to push myself over the top. I haven't found it yet here in Arizona you can see I've got my sweatshirt on. We're starting to cool off. It's in the 70s, so in the afternoons I go for a walk 20 to 30 minutes, go for a walk, clear my head. I put my phone on, do not disturb, so I can just walk and be with myself. Sometimes I listen to podcasts, whatever, but I'm just trying to clear my mind. I've started doing that late last week so it helps to get everything rocking and rolling and moving. So it helps to get everything rocking and rolling and moving, but I'm still it's still a focused struggle and I'm still trying to find that sweet spot.

Speaker 1: 6:13

So, guys, I know I've been rambling and talking about this, but what I want to really get to is if you're struggling with focus and juggling too many tasks, there's a certain point in time you have to back off and figure out what can I do and what can't I do, and that's what I've been doing every morning. I'm getting up earlier because I can't sleep and I start working and I'm moving things off of my plate that I truly can't handle and I need to move forward with, or push them to the side, I should say. And then everything that I can handle, I'm pushing forward and bringing it to the finish line. It just it's bringing clarity, but I think it's my patience.

Speaker 1: 6:55

I've not been patient enough with being able to put this together and I'm not giving it a shot, a fair shot, to see how it plays out, because I think there's some green shoots popping up that are starting to play out very well, but then there's some that are not, and I see that and I get frustrated and then it sets me back. I go three steps forward excuse me, two steps forward and three steps back, and that is not where I want to be. So, making sure I've got the right mindset, I'm journaling in the morning, I'm journaling in the morning, I'm reading scripture in the morning. I'm making sure that I start my day out right. That's helping, but I'm still struggling throughout the day because I'm bouncing around like a ping pong ball and I need to put myself in the right place. So, guys, I thought I would share where I'm at. I hope you guys are having a great week, stay safe, stay healthy. I'll see you guys on the other side.